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title: "Timeline photos "I think this sense of unease among women from this…"
date: 2017-06-03
source: facebook
type: Archer T. Ships added a new photo.
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# Timeline photos "I think this sense of unease among women from this…

*June 3, 2017 · Facebook*

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\"I think this sense of unease among women from this "sexual gaze" comes from something a bit deeper. Men want sex from women, really, really badly. Women have the power (particularly in today's society) to give it to them, or withhold. When women have this Thing that men want, and men have to submit/earn/beg/work to get it, then this creates a fundamental inequality in interactions. The problem is a power imbalance.\
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Imagine you have someone who is very rich, with a bunch of poor friends. If everybody is civilized and sensible, the rich person can hang out with the poor friends, and the poor will be careful to pay for their own meals and not ask for anything, because they don't want the rich person to feel like the friendship is about money. But if everybody is a bit less civilized, then rich person would probably have to learn to always be on guard for friendly people who just want money. Maybe they learn to start suspecting all nice interactions. Maybe all they want to do is dress like they're not rich and hope nobody notices that they have money.\
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And of course there are benefits to this. If you have a Thing everyone wants, you can use this to your advantage. You can make a lot of money in an industry where you sell the Thing. People will be nice to you if they see you have the Thing. People will give you gifts in hope that maybe you will share your Thing. You probably won't have to do nearly as much as people who don't have the Thing, and the standards for you will be set lower.\
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I think this leads to a sort of internal dissonance, because on one hand, there are benefits to having the Thing, and it's nice to have a good standing in society, for people to treat you well, for images of your Thing displayed on billboards as objects of worship. But on the other hand, having the Thing means that everybody is constantly pawing at you for it, and that your life centers around protecting the Thing and trying to navigate dispersing the Thing, and that isn't very fun at all.\"\
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[https://aellagirl.com/2016/08/21/power-imbalances-and-sex/](https://aellagirl.com/2016/08/21/power-imbalances-and-sex/){target="_blank"}
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