This book looks interesting:
'"Kink” and “paraphilia” are words given to any stimulus culturally considered socially deviant that sexually arouses some portion of the population. This strikes us as a very silly way to separate out aspects of normal human sexuality." Kinks are likely only superficial manifestations of more varied and nuanced sexual arousal pathways."'
"Person's sexual aversions are just as much a part of their sexuality as the things that turn them on—and we are not given a framework for accepting and normalizing our sexual aversions."
"Women search for porn featuring violence against women at more than twice the rate of men. If there is a genre of porn in which violence is perpetrated against a woman, my analysis of the data shows that it almost always appeals disproportionately to women.”
"You cannot control or choose which things arouse you. That which turns you on does not say anything about what you want to happen to you or how you think the world should work. The things that create arousing sexual impulses in your brain are just the things that create arousing sexual impulses in your brain. Because you cannot consciously choose these turn-ons, they say nothing about you as a person."
https://www.amazon.com/Pragmatists-Guide-Sexuality-People-Species/dp/0999715429
'"Kink” and “paraphilia” are words given to any stimulus culturally considered socially deviant that sexually arouses some portion of the population. This strikes us as a very silly way to separate out aspects of normal human sexuality." Kinks are likely only superficial manifestations of more varied and nuanced sexual arousal pathways."'
"Person's sexual aversions are just as much a part of their sexuality as the things that turn them on—and we are not given a framework for accepting and normalizing our sexual aversions."
"Women search for porn featuring violence against women at more than twice the rate of men. If there is a genre of porn in which violence is perpetrated against a woman, my analysis of the data shows that it almost always appeals disproportionately to women.”
"You cannot control or choose which things arouse you. That which turns you on does not say anything about what you want to happen to you or how you think the world should work. The things that create arousing sexual impulses in your brain are just the things that create arousing sexual impulses in your brain. Because you cannot consciously choose these turn-ons, they say nothing about you as a person."
https://www.amazon.com/Pragmatists-Guide-Sexuality-People-Species/dp/0999715429