Congrats on your happy family life! I'm glad that you've found...
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Congrats on your happy family life! I'm glad that you've found someone you love, and the resources to raise children. I'm also happy to hear that bearing children has not damaged your health or your figure. However, that you've found a style of parenting that suits you does not mean that other styles of parenting don't work, nor that the people involved don't love their children just as much as you do. For example, child raised in US orphanages report high quality of life: "Beginning in the mid-1990s, I started surveying orphanage alumni from as many orphanages as I could find. I assumed initially that orphanage critics were likely right: “Orphanages were generally bad, but my orphanage was special”—or so I thought. After receiving more than 2,500 responses, I learned that my home was ordinary. An overwhelming majority (85 percent) of the surveyed alumni look back “favorably” or “very favorably” on their orphanage salad days. Only 2.3 percent of the alumni had hostile assessments. [Orphanage alumni] reported that they had done better than the general population on almost all measures, including education, income, attitude toward life, criminal records, psychological problems,unemployment, dependence on welfare, and happiness. For example, the alumni reported that they had an overall college graduation rate 39 percent higher than the general population in their age group (and the respondents, who lived an average of eight-plus years in their orphanages, were 56 to 97 years old, with a mean age of 68). They also reported 10 to 60 percent higher median incomes than those in their age cohort. "" https://www.facebook.com/archerships/posts/pfbid02PNmk814WFURp4BiqmtLejradXc1zvv2nfPBpiHgyZ4vYaVWeNt5ywJnDCURustpwl "Our own American Hutterites offer a less instructive case—they are tradition-bound agricultural communities, deliberately shunning modern developments. Yet the ultra-conservative, extremely devout Hutterites share with the socialist and atheistic kibbutzim one very striking feature: the children of both groups, reared communally in children’s homes by professional educators rather than by their families, grow up into adolescents and adults free of the asocial behaviors that worry us most—delinquency, criminality, sexual promiscuity, homosexuality, etc. In general the incidence of severe emotional disturbance among them is extremely low as compared with our society at large. Perhaps more important, the Hutterite communities, like the radical Israeli kibbutzim, are “exceedingly effective in rearing their children to live up to the basic moral principles which they share with the larger society.”" https://www.commentary.org/articles/commentary-bk/does-communal-education-work-the-case-of-the-kibbutz/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NE3cY1Z2Kdc