Anthony David Adams. I agree that it's a good idea to always improve...
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Anthony David Adams. I agree that it's a good idea to always improve yourself. That said, I think many men have good reasons not to have a partner, even so. For example, I'm a libertarian who wants a libertarian partner. Unfortunately, libertarian men outnumber libertarian women 3:1. So, it's mathematically impossible for all libertarian men to have libertarian partners, even if they eliminate every other criteria (such as looks, intelligence, sanity, etc). I could choose a non-libertarian partner, but then I'd have to stifle many of the things I like to talk about, so as not to offend or annoy them. That feels in-authentic to me. So, for men like me, there are long periods of time between partners. Other men may be pursuing challenging career goals (medical school, military deployment, startup founder), suffer from medical conditions (cancer, autism, dwarfism, etc), or have something else going on in their lives that make romantic relationships difficult/impossible. I don't think that it's a good idea for such men to choose bad partners, just to get their needs met. Sex work can't satisfy all desires, it's true. It can't satisfy the desire for a genuinely loving partner, for example. However, I think sex work can satisfy many needs, such as for touch, companionship, and sex. > there is no such thing as someone being "too needy" * shrugs * Whatever you want to call it, most women are turned off by men who seem too eager.