I agree; raising children is unpleasant in many ways. I completely understand why many people are reluctant to have children, given both the direct and opportunity costs.
It is a shame because the people with the best genes (beauty, intelligence, grit, etc.) must pay the highest opportunity costs. As a result, they tend to have fewer children than midwits and dumbasses.
Rather than trying to force women back into the homemaker role, I think we need to:
a. Reduce the costs of raising children.
b. Create better incentives to raise children.
c. Shift the burdens of childcare to people who specialize in childcare as a career.
Farming technology has advanced by many orders of magnitude from the practices of our Neolithic ancestors 12,000 years ago. Modern farms are so productive that we can feed 350 million people easily with only 1% of the population.
By contrast, childrearing technology is still at the hoe-and-scythe subsistence farmer level.
There are many relatively near-term technological advances that would substantially increase the number and quality of children we can have without substantially diminishing the quality of life of existing adults.
Some of these include:
1. Artificial wombs
2. Gametogenesis
3. Robonannies
4. Specialized childrearing corporate structures
5. Child income share agreements
6. Germline genetic engineering
7. Pre-implantation genetic screening / polygenic risk scoring
Instead of going it alone, perhaps you could find or found a community of people who want to make these "Effective Childrearing". advances happen?
I expand on some of these ideas further at the links below.
